And month 8 goes by with no pregnancy. Month 9 is not looking so good b/c dh is going to visit his parents during the time that I really need him. Oh well, I'm not really expecting much anymore. Wee man is going to be 18 before I ever get pregnant.
I don't know what else to say about it, but I'm beginning to think that I don't want to talk about it.
So I will distract you with some wee man pictures. What do you think? Should he be modeling?
Just chillin' without Dad on the big ol' boat
GQ Wee Man
This beach is great!!!
Well, maybe not.
Posted
by Hedda on Monday, March 31, 2008
Posted
by Hedda on Sunday, March 23, 2008
It has been three weeks since my bil passed away. I have wanted to send my mil an email to be supportive. I have no idea what to say. I'm not new to grief mind you. I just don't know how to deal with her. I feel like she was trying to make us feel guilty about living near my family but being 1000 miles away from them. I'm not sorry for where we decided to live. I did what I felt was best for me when my son died. It has turned out to be a great decision. But, still...what do you say to someone who thrives on crisis and misery to help them move forward through their grief? I know that I can't tell her how to grieve and I would never try to, but I feel like I should do something. Any suggestions?
Dh is not doing so well either. He has never been one to talk about his feelings and that is exactly what he is doing. He's not talking. We talked the other morning about me being more sympathetic. I'm having a hard time with that because dh and his brother were not best buds while we were married. His response was that maybe that's why he is having a hard time with his brother's death. He said he should have been best buds with his brother. Brother had a lot of problems. When we were first married we tried to help. He moved in with us and I feel like he took advantage of us. We finally had to ask him to leave. It was tough love. Throughout the next 10 years we had to use tough love with him. We felt that's what was best for him and for us.
I don't know how to help him. I really think he should talk to someone that is more qualified than me. He just needs to work through the feelings he is having toward his brother. He could also use some time working with the issues with his mother, but I don't think anyone has that kind of time.
I hate grief. We've had too much of it in our family to be this young. It makes me feel really old.
Dh is not doing so well either. He has never been one to talk about his feelings and that is exactly what he is doing. He's not talking. We talked the other morning about me being more sympathetic. I'm having a hard time with that because dh and his brother were not best buds while we were married. His response was that maybe that's why he is having a hard time with his brother's death. He said he should have been best buds with his brother. Brother had a lot of problems. When we were first married we tried to help. He moved in with us and I feel like he took advantage of us. We finally had to ask him to leave. It was tough love. Throughout the next 10 years we had to use tough love with him. We felt that's what was best for him and for us.
I don't know how to help him. I really think he should talk to someone that is more qualified than me. He just needs to work through the feelings he is having toward his brother. He could also use some time working with the issues with his mother, but I don't think anyone has that kind of time.
I hate grief. We've had too much of it in our family to be this young. It makes me feel really old.
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